tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36634034776824164.post116369457575392820..comments2011-10-14T09:51:10.552-07:00Comments on High Voltage Photography: "I'm Fine"Elizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08011326750835369225noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36634034776824164.post-23559829387112186502011-01-19T21:29:36.531-08:002011-01-19T21:29:36.531-08:00Grief is really different for everyone. You can&#...Grief is really different for everyone. You can't second guess it, because it really just is. My aunt hasn't been gone a year and I am still reeling...crying at least weekly. Now that my dad has some not-so-serious cancer, I don't feel emotionally able to cope, but I keep telling myself I am fine, but as days go by, I realize its not so much true. We all cope (or don't) in different ways, and I am not really a cryer, but I found that reading up on the stages of grief reminds me that what I feel is normal, my outward reaction may not match, but at least what I feel is. Hope that didn't come off like a pity party, its still really fresh for me and I relate. :0)Straightlacedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351122602224486330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36634034776824164.post-59433732309274209422011-01-17T13:49:26.655-08:002011-01-17T13:49:26.655-08:00Personally, I don't cry much at funerals usual...Personally, I don't cry much at funerals usually. Mattering on how much of a surprise it is, I might not eve seem upset when I find out someone is in trouble, which led me to feel alot of guilt when my aunt had multiple brain anuerisms(sp?) and I was able to just take a deep breath and accept it. When my uncle(the person in my family that at the time probably best understood me despite not having much time to get to know eachother) passed due to lung cancer I cried when I found out and at the funeral but then it all hit me in a wall about a month later, leading to a night spent with my mother trying to comfort me.<br />My point is, we cn't really know how we're going to react and grieve when the time comes, and frankly no one has any right to tell us that we're doing it wrong or not. But taken it on a day to day basis and it will all eventually hit. <br />I don't know how much of a help any of this is, but I can offer a psychic hug and heartfelt condolences.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com